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It seems to me that every time there’s breaking news that Conservatives are coming for our marriages–again–I see the same trend on social media: First, all of us queers post the headlines, with sad emojis and captions like, We knew this was coming. Then, we post pics of our families, reels of our weddings, and we grovel. We plead for them to like us, to let us love, to please, please see us, because we matter.
Can We Just Stop?
Let’s just stop with the undignified desperation. Instead, let’s give them the proverbial middle finger. Let’s remind them that they have no power over us. Don’t like me and my little family? Great, I could give a shit. I’m not here to make you like me. I’m not here to make you comfortable.
Me? I’m here for my wife and my two boys and you, you can go to hell.
Let’s remind them that our queerness is fierce as hell, our community is stronger than ever, and the Respect for Marriage Act exists. Signed into law by President Biden in 2022, it doesn’t codify the Obergefell decision, but it does protect our marriage rights.
Am I sad that as both a woman and a queer person my rights are always on the chopping block? Of course I am. But even more than that, I’m pissed off, and I’m finally finished pleading my case, asking permission to exist, and trying to convince everyone or anyone to like me. LGBTQ+ folks are often facing the dilemma of how to be more palatable for others. We’ve historically believed that if we just show them our humanity, convince them that we’re “normal gays,” then maybe they’ll accept us. I say screw that. As a white, suburban, millennial mother of two, I’m pretty sure I fall into the category of “normal gay”–whatever that actually means–and it doesn’t matter. It has never mattered. They will still erase your rights as if it impacts theirs at all.
Stop trying to soften your edges to prove that you’re smooth. Stop existing for their gaze. Stop trying to appease the bully. Turn your back. Walk away. Live your life. Tell them to take their bigotry and shove it.
I’m into the discourse here. I wanna hear your thoughts. Please, reach out to me at la********@***********op.com or comment on Instagram and tell me what you think.
Hey there. Laura Leigh here. I’m a wife, writer, mama, small business owner, podcast host, and the Head of Content here at Pink Robin.
I love supporting the queer community and bringing shared experiences to life.
If you have a story to tell, I’m here for it.
la********@***********op.com
Pink Robin, We’re a home for queer millennial voices—no fame, no filters, no perfection required. The stories of queer people are beautiful, bold, and deeply worth telling.
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